Clicky

Michaela Mishko Scott - Contena

Michaela Mishko Scott

I am 23 years old and have been wanting to write since I found out that writing is the only real career. I have written about depression and anxiety, fairies and talking trees, ghosts and even beings that resemble life and death. I am new to freelance writing and am very excited to start my career in helping businesses expand.

Explore Your Imagination.
Front Page
1 minute read

Sometimes when you are sitting in your chair and can't think of what to write, sometimes that is the problem. Stop thinking! Just let your thoughts roam the free air and see what they come up with. Sometimes you just need to sit and start typing. Do not stop until your fingers can't move anymore! Don't worry about the grammar, spelling and punctuation at first. Just write! Try to not even look at the computer screen. Just think of a simple little object and make it come to life. 

Try looking at a leaf. Just a small little green leaf. IMAGINE it starts to come to life. Write down how that little leaf is now alive on your porch table. Give that little leaf all five senses: smell, touch, taste, hearing, and sight. What does it hate? What does it like? Go crazy with details! Make the reader open their imagination. Make them see what you put down. Make that little green leaf have life. Give it a personality. Give it a heart. Make it go on adventure! Make it mischievous. Anything! EVERYTHING! That is what's so great about your imagination. There are no rules, no expectations, and no limits! Just write! 

The wind! Oh, the wind! It is getting louder and stronger. Oh, what should I do? I stepped away from my tree for just a second to find the warmth from the sun and now I am stuck. I am so scared. The rain will be coming soon and then I won't be able to go anywhere. Oh... I can smell the Creosote bush... that means the rain is so near. The air is getting thinner, I can taste the moisture. If it starts to rain, I'll be stuck down here! I need to get back to my tree. Maybe I can use the wind to help me rise back up to my branch. Okay. Here I go!

That little leaf that you made come to life is like your imagination. It might seem small and insignificant, but it is far from it. Your imagination has so many opportunities to expand it just can't wait! It might be hard at first. You might be stuck sitting at your desk, staring at your computer screen and wondering what to do and what to write. You just have to close your eyes...take a deep breath... and let your imagination go.

 Here's a tip: pretend you are the leaf and try to think of what could happen. What is it thinking? Put yourself in the mind of the character you created. Make it fun, silly, and playful! Make it something you know you will be proud of. Open that door to your imagination!

You will be surprised with the amazing adventures you can come up with and all the fantastic creatures you will create. Don't be scared and don't think your work is not worth being heard. Words are the greatest tools for new discoveries. 

Now write your story.

Published September 14, 2020
Need A Companion?
1 minute read

Sometimes life for us humans becomes too much. It is always nice to go home to our nonhuman friend. No judgement or disappointment, just a happy furry friend who has been waiting to see you. Now if it is a cat or a dog or a goldfish, they will help you and make you smile. 

Picture this... After a long hard day at work, dealing with customers, or that boss that expects more out of you, or even if it was a stranger who looked at you funny, you get to be with a lovely pet and enjoy their company. Let's face it, both of you have been looking forward to this all day!

Almost any type of animal will help you in some way or another. There has been research that explains the importance of having a pet. Besides making you extremely happy, they are able to decrease many levels of health such as: blood pressure, cholesterol levels, and/or triglyceride levels. Other pets can help increase the want to exercise. Like taking your dog for a run or watching your hamster run in his wheel, might make you want to do the same.

Humans are able to create such great bonds with their pets and probably never be able to create the same bond with other humans. Thats okay! It still helps humans socialize and feel comfortable to talk to anyone. Animals tend to not judge others and that is one of the greatest things about them. Humans become more like themselves around their animals which makes them subconsciously act like themselves around other people.

With a pet, you will never feel lonely. Just like you, the pet does not want to be alone, they want to be around you wherever you go. Cats, for example, like to lay right on top of your laptop while you try to get some work done. They just know that you wish to pet them rather than do work on your laptop. Animals are very smart. Their senses are so much stronger than humans that they are able to tell when something is, or going to be, terribly wrong. They can sometimes tell if there's about to be an earthquake, or even catch cancer before it starts. This is because they get so used to everything around them, every little detail, that when something so little is wrong or off balance then the normal...they know it's... something.

Now if you think you are ready to adopt a new friend today, make sure you do a bit of research first.  Make sure you know exactly what type of animal you want.  Make sure you and anyone in your family are not allergic or have any sort of allergies to the animal you want. Make sure your new friend will have enough space to roam and feel free. And lastly, make sure they have a great name that suits them.

So, don't be sad anymore! Don't be lonely! Go find a companion that needs you just as much as you need them.

Published September 15, 2020
Family silhouette
Parents/ Non Parents Research Project
13 minute read

If you have ever had a child or even just someone you love with all your heart, you know how it feels to be human. From birth, it is especially important to show your child love and affection. It is also good to show them and teach them how it is to be human. It is not good to ever be alone, no matter what age you are. And according to socialization, which is the process through which people are taught to be proficient members of a society, everyone needs another person helping them along the way. Interactionism is a theoretical perspective that derives social processes such as conflict, cooperation, identity formation from human interaction. It is the study of how individuals shape society and are shaped by society through meaning that arises in interactions. In other words, you are who you are because of the people you are around. But your personality is also made by how you see it is supposed to be. How this starts in from good parenting. Every child has parents. It can always be hard to raise a child and due with a lot of different circumstances, it can also turn out bad. During the 1960’s the perfect home was a total of 4 people: a mom, a dad, and two children. But as time went by society changed dramatically and now the norm for a family is a single mother or father and several children. What can also happen is when a family abuses or neglects or abandons and child and they become feral. 

For many other feral children and their cases, it brings up to a conclusion of the difference between nature and nurture. For nurture, this is when we are growing with the relationships and caring that surrounds us. For when our mothers or fathers hold us. That feel of nourishment is what humans need to feel wanted and to feel loved. Some say that we are developed by nurturers. But others say we have grown from genetics. From our parent’s genes and their habits. This is what they call nature. Being developed from our parents just passing down from what they know. We grow up knowing everything from birth.

From all this research, I have gone and asked 6 people I think are, would, and will be great parents. I asked them a total of 10 questions. From the questions, these will determine the norms of parenting. Because there are different styles of parents, it is hard to say who is good and who is not. But I believe if you love your child/children with every ounce of your being then you are a great parent.

1) Is it okay to praise your kids for efforts more than their smarts or vice versa? Why?

2) Do you let your kids make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

3) Is it good to give your kids chores? Why?

4) Do your kids need rules/schedule? Why?

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your kids okay? Why?

6) Is loving too much good or bad? Why?

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

8) Is it good to be patient and let you kid do their own thing or be strict and do your thing? Why?

9) Is it good to have a loving marriage in front of your kids? Why?

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

Amanda Weniger is 30 years old. During her childhood, she had an older brother. Her parents were not that good of parents. Her mother was a drug addict and her father were abusive. She wants to make sure that her family is a perfect one and found a great husband. She married my uncle, my mother’s brother. They were married for 4 years and had their daughter, Kaylee Erin. Just a year later they had another daughter, Adalyn Grace. Moving on with their lives as a family of four, I asked the mother some questions and these are the answers I got.

1) Is it okay to praise your children for efforts more than for their smarts or vice versa? Why?

Both. But more for their efforts because they are trying. Not all kids are smart.

2) Do you let your children make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

Make it for them, they would not sleep otherwise. Tired and cranky.

3) Is it good to give your children chores? Why?

Yes, it teaches them responsibility.

4) Do your children need rules/schedule? Why?

Yes, so they can live a good and healthy life.

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your children okay? Why?

It’s a terrible thing, doesn’t teach your kids healthy behaviors.

6) Is showing too much love and affection good or bad? Why?

No such thing as too much love. Good. Everyone needs love and affection. They feel better.

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

Yes, if age appropriate, match their crime. Teaches them about consequences.

8) Is it good to be patient and let you child do their own thing or be strict and do YOUR own thing? Why?

Let your kid do their own thing because creativity is a good asset.

9) Is it good to show a loving marriage in front of your children? Why?

Yes, because it teaches them about healthy relationships when they get older.

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

Yes, because we all need our own mental health status.

Kelly McGrath is 40 years old. She grew up with no brothers or sisters and really didn’t have any young kids running around when she grew up. She had a mother and a father who got a divorce before she went into high school. Her father was a drug addict, so she stayed with her mother. She met my dad almost 10 years who and had a child who is now 7 named Jakom Stone. Here are the answers I got from her when I asked her these questions.

1) Is it okay to praise your children for efforts more than for their smarts or vice versa? Why?

It is more important to praise kids for their efforts because children and people in general are not always able to do the same thing as others but if they try, it teaches them to make good habits and increases there in abilities to get things done.

2) Do you let your children make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

Make it for them because he is more successful in life if he follows a routine.

3) Is it good to give your children chores? Why?

It is good because it teaches them responsibility.

4) Do your children need rules/schedule? Why?

Yes, because again it helps them be successful and help him focus if he has a routine schedule.

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your children okay? Why?

It is okay to a certain degree because it is important for him to see conflicts and be real but there are other times for it to not be in front of him because it may be disturbing to him.

6) Is showing too much love and affection good or bad? Why?

I do not think there is such a thing as too much love and it is a good thing because it helps them be confident.

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

Well I think people’s opinions for harsh is different and they need to think about their child’s feelings for discipline.

8) Is it good to be patient and let you child do their own thing or be strict and do YOUR own thing? Why?

I think it is good to be patient so they can figure things out on their own but I don’t think I do good on it, but it helps create life skills.

9) Is it good to show a loving marriage in front of your kids? Why?

Yes, it helps create security and happiness.

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

Yes, it is okay because it increases my abilities to be patient and to listen and to pay attention to my child.

Jennifer Mishko Scott is 37 years old and she is my mother. She grew up with a brother and a sister. She has her mom and her dad who have been together for about 40 years now and she is the middle child. She has me with my dad when she was 17 and he was 18. She was able to have my grandmother help her raise me. She then got married to Matt and had two children. Julia Paige who is 11 and Nathan David who is 8. Here are her answers.

1) Is it okay to praise your children for efforts more than for their smarts or vice versa? Why?

Better to praise both, good to praise them for what they are doing good than their smarts. Do as good as they can. If you are trying. Not everyone is good at everything.

2) Do you let your children make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

Make it for them because they are too young to know when they are too tired. Depends on each kid and their age.

3) Is it good to give your children chores? Why?

Yes, because they need to learn to take care of their own stuff and chip in to their house hold. Learn responsibility. No getting paid for it.

4) Do your children need rules/schedule? Why?

Rules yes. So, they know what is appropriate and what isn’t. Teaches them right from wrong. In real life lessons. Yes, but not strict because life gets in the way. An adjusted schedule. Strict schedule is bad because they get frustrated.

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your children okay? Why?

Fighting yelling no but an argument and a discussion not. When it escalates it is not okay? A disagreement is okay because they need to learn not everyone believes in the same thing.

6) Is showing too much love good or bad? Why?

Too much love is not bad, but a time comes when a kisses and hugs get too much in front of your kids. Cannot ever show too much love.

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

It depends on what they did wrong. Punishment matches the crime kind of thing. Not grounding them for a month if they cannot get up in the morning., Things get taken away. Do not punish them for every little thing.

8) Is it good to be patient and let you child do their own thing or be strict and do YOUR own thing? Why?

Both, at times you need to let kids do their own thing, compromise. In moderation of what they think.

9) Is it good to have a loving marriage in front of your children? Why?

Because they grow up in a loving home. Good for kids to see what marriage should be and caring for someone and that is shared for a mom and a dad show them how they want to be when they grow up. Happy healthy loving one.

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

Yes, that is why I work. I think everyone needs a break from everyone and everything, time to yourself. Life can be stressful.

Carrie Schultz is 39 years old. She is my mother’s sister. At a young age, she decided she did not want to have children. But as an aunt she has two nieces and a nephew. She sees how they are parented and so I asked her the same questions. This is what I got.

1) Is it okay to praise your children for efforts more than for their smarts or vice versa? Why?

Yes, because they need to do the best they can even if it is not as good as someone else.

2) Do you let your children make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

I make it for them otherwise they would stay up all night long.

3) Is it good to give your children chores? Why?

Yes, it gives them responsibility.

4) Do your children need rules/schedule? Why?

Yes, because that is the only way they will learn they can’t do whatever they want whenever they want.

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your children okay? Why?

Depends on who you fight but no because they do not need to hear your adult problems as a child.

6) Is showing too much love and affection good or bad? Why?

You should be loving to your kids but not coddle them, so you are always making a safe bubble.

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

Yes, sometimes they need a smack. If its warranted.

8) Is it good to be patient and let you child do their own thing or be strict and do YOUR own thing? Why?

They need to do their own thing if its within my guidelines, they need to figure things out to a point. Depends on the situation.

9) Is it good to show a loving marriage in front of your children? Why?

Yes, so they know what a marriage should be like when they are older.

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

Yes, you need a break and your kids need a break. You still must remember to be an individual and not just be a mom all the time.

Joanne Weniger is my grandmother who is 62 years old. She had my uncle, Joseph Ryan who is 33, my aunt, Carrie Marie who is 39, and my mom, Jennifer Lynn who is 37. She is married to my grandfather Joseph Alex. She has 4 sisters, so she was never alone. These are the answers I have gotten from her.

1) Is it okay to praise your children for efforts more than for their smarts or vice versa? Why?

More for their efforts, trying your best. Smart thing to do.

2) Do you let your children make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

Make it for them depending on their age because kids do not know what would be appropriate for them.

3) Is it good to give your children chores? Why?

Yes, exceptionally good it teaches them responsibility.

4) Do your children need rules/schedule? Why?

Yes, they do because they learn how to live properly. Learn to be mature adults.

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your children okay? Why?

No because it makes them feel uncomfortable and it is not appropriate.

6) Is showing too much love good or bad? Why?

Loaded question, I do not think you can show too much love show affection appropriately.

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

No because it does not work.

8) Is it good to be patient and let you child do their own thing or be strict and do YOUR own thing? Why?

Middle of the road somewhere between the two. Because you want them to learn to do things on their own, but you must guide them.

9) Is it good to show a loving marriage in front of your children? Why?

Yes, it is because it is good for them and builds confidents and teaches them about a good relationship.

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

Yes, you need a break it is healthy.

Rose Kawalski is my best friend. She is 20 years old and is an only child. Her mom is a lesbian and her dad is gay. She has never been around kids except for my siblings. Here are the questions I asked her.

1) Is it okay to praise your children for efforts more than for their smarts or vice versa? Why?

I think that more effort needs to be put for their efforts more than their smarts but for the same time it should be acknowledged that they are trying. Let them deal with it so they can grow as a person and be there for them. Grow from experiences.

2) Do you let your children make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

I would make it for them. There would be flexibility if something was going on, but I would give them a bedtime.

3) Is it good to give your children chores? Why?

Yes, I grew up with a lot of chores and even though I hated it as a kid, I am glad I had them because I would not know how to do things now but I learned and it creates responsibility.

4) Do your children need rules/schedule? Why?

To a certain extent. Especially when they are younger but when they are older I think they need to grow on their own time frame.

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your children okay? Why?

Depends on the type of fighting because it is okay to see your parents disagree on something or if it is about their relationship. It should not be in front of your kids but sometimes that’s not something you can control.

6) Is showing too much love good or bad? Why?

I do not know I mean there is nothing wrong with loving your kids, if you become a helicopter parent then you are not giving them room. You can love your kid, but you need to know they have to become their own person.

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

Well if harsh discipline you mean physical I think that is not okay, just because I feel like it not only harms the kid emotionally, it also can lead to feelings of resentment. Because I know people who got brought up that way and they have lost respect their parents because of it. So that is not okay.

8) Is it good to be patient and let you child do their own thing or be strict and do YOUR own thing? Why?

It depends on the situation; the kids are young the parent must help but if the kid is doing something by themselves then they should let them do their own thing but if they need you to guide them then by all means.

9) Is it good to have a loving marriage in front of your children? Why?

I mean it is probably good to have a loving partnership, but I do not think parents should pretend things are okay if they are not. They should be a great example, but they should be truthful, and it is not good to pretend everything is good for the kids’ sake.

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

Yes, it is totally okay, not a month long but maybe take a day just to get back to who you are and who you want to be to get yourself back. You need to be able to take care of yourself as well.

Michaela Mishko Scott. I am 20 years old and I grew up watching everyone raise their children and I have always thought of myself as helping my parents raise my siblings. Here are my answers to these questions.

1) Is it okay to praise your children for efforts more than for their smarts or vice versa? Why?

I think it is good to praise your kids for their efforts than their smarts because you need to make sure they know that once they try hard, they will succeed.

2) Do you let your children make their own sleep schedule or do you make it for them? Why?

I would make a sleep schedule for my kids because I think it is important that they get all their sleep for them to have a productive next day.

3) Is it good to give your children chores? Why?

I think it is good for kids to have chores because it teaches them responsibility for when they grow up they know to have a neat and happy home it needs to be kept up of the work and the house stays in good shape.

4) Do your children need rules/schedule? Why?

I think kids need rules and schedule because it teaches them responsibility and how the real world will work.

5) Is fighting with your spouse in front of your children okay? Why?

I think it is okay at times so your kids see how adults talk things out. But when the fight could get intense then the parents should not fight in front of the kids.

6) Is loving too much good or bad? Why?

I think You could never love too much but at times you need to take a stance and show that the love you have for the kid is important.

7) Is harsh discipline okay? Why?

I think when it comes to discipline it depends on the problem.

8) Is it good to be patient and let you child do their own thing or be strict and do YOUR own thing? Why?

I think it is good to be patient with your kids but always have the upper hand when it comes to them doing their own thing.

9) Is it good to show a loving marriage in front of your children? Why?

I think it is good to have a loving marriage because it shows the love that is important for a family.

10) Is it okay to give yourself a break? Why?

I think it is important to give yourself a break because you need to make sure you get patients and time to yourself to think about life. 

With all the answers I have received, it has been amazing to learn everyone's opinions on the matter. In my conclusion to this project, I believe everyone absolutely loves their children and knows that love is the most important than anything else.

Published October 1, 2020